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Saturday, March 22, 2025

[Reading] The Leadership Challenge (7th edition) by James M Kouzes and Barry Z Posner

The 5 Practices of Leadership is not new (to me)... but I've never learnt it in depth. First heard about this through Hin Chew when he shared the thinking behind the approach that shapes the leadership programme in the school.
  • Practice 1: Model the Way
  • Practice 2: Inspire a Vision
  • Practice 3: Challenge the Process
  • Practice 4: Enable Others to Act
  • Practice 5: Encourage the Heart
The statements were clear - and with experience, I think we can roughly figure out what these 5 practices encompass. Yet, this is really our own interpretation.

Recent years, when Guohui decided to make it "the" approach for the leadership programme, I had the chance to attend the workshop that get deeper understanding, but still, superficial (slightly more than the 5 lines) - through some hands-on activities. Thankful of the exposure - as the advisor of the Digital Citizenship Board. 

Bought the book to find out more.
While the book organises the content in the best flow, it depends on how the user uses it, to what extend the user wants to gain from it, and also depends on the profile and the experiences of the user. 


How I approach this 300+ pages book? I took advantage of the way the book is organised - each Practices (and its sub-practices) start with a "case" - that illustrates the practice in a real world context.

As an introduction, I read the illustration section of each chapter, one following another, instead of getting into the depth of each practice first. 

With the experience gained over the years, I attempted to make a connection of my experience to the illustration to reflect on my own practice for deeper insights - making the learning more personal. 

On top of this, I see another use of this book - for the DC Board - part of professional development of the EXCO members. Suggested equipping each of the 5 EXCO members with a copy of the book - that the Teachers in-charge can run through the illustrations of each practices with them - to trigger their thinking and relate to their own practices. More importantly - serves as a pass-on learning from one generation to another, hopefully. Having said this, I would also equip each of the teachers-in-charge with a hardcopy of the book. 

Below are some useful phrases, ideas and insights that I generated when going through each practice. 

Practice 1: Model the Way
  • Clarifying Values & Shared values
    • To engage others to come forward, one needs to be very clear of what one believes in and stands by it. Only with this, it leads us to our words and actions. 
    • Leadership is not about telling what we believe in, but articulating how we act and demonstrate what we believe it. Tell others, the values and performance criteria that we demand ourselves everyday. 
    • This is the first step for others to read and check against themselves - are these the values and beliefs that they honour, too? The alignment brings people together.
  • Setting Example
    • Lead by example has to be explicit to create the influence, and hopefully the impact.
    • Of course, it is also a demonstration of walking the talk.
succinctly: 
Practice 1: Model the Way emphasises the importance of leaders being clear about their own values and consistently acting on them. Leadership is not just about stating beliefs but demonstrating them through everyday actions and holding oneself to clear performance standards. By doing so, leaders allow others to reflect on whether these values align with their own, fostering a sense of shared purpose. Leading by example must be intentional and visible—it is through this consistent demonstration that leaders influence and inspire others.


Practice 2: Inspire a Vision
  • Envision the future
    • While a leader may have a vision and knows exactly what he heads towards, one cannot move forward and leaving the rest behind. Ownership is necessary for us to get close to the vision. This is the same as one would not be able to achieve as much with lone effort, compared to team work. 
    • It is therefore necessary for leaders to knowledge that imposing their vision does not work. We everyone in the community to be involved and enlisted.
    • Harness on the connection between vision and action. How to engage others? When one feels passionate about the legacy they want to leave, about the kind of future they want for themselves and others, then one is more likely to step forward voluntarily. 
    • A vision, therefore, is an ideal and unique image of the future for the common goal. The vision does not belong only to the leader, it has to be a shared vision.
    • Shared visions attract more people, sustain higher motivation levels and within more challenges.
  • How to enlist others?
    • 3 good questions for us to ask ourselves, or even questions to ask our subordinates:
      • What are the ideals that attract you to the organisation?
      • What are the higher order values that give meaning and purpose to your life and work?
      • Are you in this job to do something, or are you in the job for something to do? If you're here to do something, what is it?
    • It's about striving to align vision of the leaders and others (intended to be enlisted). 
    • Enlisting others is about igniting a passion for a purpose and moving people to persist against incredible odds. To make extraordinary things happen, we must go beyond reason, engaging hearts and minds of the people around.
    • People need vast reserves of energy and excitement to sustain commitment to a distant dream.
succinctly: 
Practice 2: Inspire a Vision focuses on the importance of creating a shared vision that motivates and engages others. While a leader may have a clear idea of the future, true progress requires collective ownership—it cannot be achieved through individual effort alone. Imposing a vision is ineffective; instead, leaders must involve the community and harness the connection between vision and action. When people feel personally connected to the future they want to help build, they are more likely to contribute with passion and persistence. A compelling vision is not solely the leader’s—it must reflect a shared ideal that unites and energises the group. To enlist others, leaders can begin by exploring meaningful questions: What draws you to this organisation? What values give your work purpose? Are you here to do something meaningful? This alignment of purpose helps ignite enthusiasm and strengthens the drive to overcome challenges. Sustaining commitment to a distant goal requires not just logic, but emotional investment—leaders must engage both hearts and minds to truly inspire others.


Practice 3: Challenge the Process
  • Search for Opportunities
    • Having struggled through the ups and downs, the achievements attained bring us to cloud 9, and quite often, the tendency to "stay" there to enjoy the fruits of success - the "S" curve destination. Depending on how long the "we are there" thinking stays  that will bring us back to 'reality' to identify the next "S" curve, and determine how to work towards it. 
    • How long should we stay on to enjoy this "satisfied" status before start planning to move on? It's an important skill that the leader needs to have.
    • Sometimes leaders shake things up, and other times they just harness the uncertainty surrounding them. 
    • We need to look outward, keeping up with changing trends and remaining sensitive to external realities. We need to challenge the way things are being done and convince others that new practices needed to be incorporated to achieve great levels of success.
  • Experiment and take risk?
    • To achieve the extraordinary, we must be willing to do things that have never been done before. We must take initiative and then persevere. We have to test unproven strategies. 
    • Leaders make risks safe (Note, it's not leaders take safe risks). They turn experiments into learning opportunities. 
succinctly,
Practice 3: Challenge the Process encourages leaders to seek opportunities for growth, even after success. While achievements may bring a sense of satisfaction, leaders must resist the urge to stay in that comfort zone for too long. Recognising when to move forward and pursue the next "S" curve is a vital leadership skill. This involves staying alert to external trends, questioning current practices, and encouraging innovation. Leaders must be willing to take initiative, experiment with new approaches, and persevere through uncertainty. Importantly, they create environments where risks are safe to take, turning experiments into valuable learning experiences.

Practice 4: Enable Others to Act
  • Foster Collaboration
    • Trust is one word that struck me most when I started reading this chapter. To enable others to act, it means we need to trust that others has the ability and capacity to handle what's entrusted to them. On the other hand, if one is new to the job, we have another expectation - trust that he/ she will put in his/ her best effort, willing to learn and receptive to advice - that is, he/ she has a growth mindset, and is willing to learn. These attitudes enforce the degree of trust we have on the individual, isn't it? Of course, in the latter, we need to provide appropriate amount of scaffolding to support to ensure one grows. 
    • Agree that leaders can't gain the respect of their team without instilling a sense of confidence within their employees and allowing them the freedom to come to their own conclusions. Having said this, leaders must be able to assess the entry profile of the individuals - to determine the degree of 'freedom' to allow.
    • We can be there for support and guidance, but the individuals need to know that they are ultimately responsible for the outcome and quality of work - which we could openly acknowledge and provide feedback - "knowing that your work doesn't go unnoticed builds accountability as well as pride".
    • To enable others, it includes giving an overview of the surrounding environment/ situation to the team so that they see themselves as a part of a while, not some individual cog in a wheel. It is necessary for the team to know what they are doing, why they are doing it, and for whom they are doing it. This in turn, also facilitates developing working relationships with others other of their departments. 
    • Extraordinary performance isn't possible unless there's a strong sense of shared creation and shared responsibility. 
  • Strengthen Others
    • It says, exemplary leaders provide people with teh latitude and flexibility needed to take initiative. However, it does not mean throwing them into deep sea to give them the opportunity to demonstrate their ability. Strengthening others implies capacity building. No matter how strong/ competent the individual is. appropriate structure and clear guidelines nee to be articulated. This builds one's confidence and to feel competent in their abilities and role. While some struggle is necessary for one to grow, I don't believe in one having to struggle without support in order to demonstrate one is ready for the job.
    • Another important thing to do is, remember to share knowledge and information rather than hoarding it. This helps one to demonstrate critical thinking skills to make sound decisions. 
    • When members feel they have the competence and confidence to take advantage of their leader's trust and support, they take initiative and responsibility, looking for ways to improve organisational performance without being asked.
    • A reminder to leaders: Enable members to take ownership of and responsibility for their group success by enhancing their competence and confidence in their abilities, listening to their ideas and acting on them, involving them in important decisions, and acknowledgeing and giving credit for their contributions.
    • Leaders significantly increase people's belief in their ability to make a difference. They move from being in control to giving over control to others, becoming their coach and mentor.
succinctly, 
Practice 4: Enable Others to Act centres on building trust, fostering collaboration, and empowering individuals through support and shared ownership. Trusting others means believing in their ability or potential, even when they are new—so long as they demonstrate a willingness to learn. Leaders must assess individuals’ readiness, provide appropriate scaffolding, and gradually offer the freedom needed to grow. Empowerment also involves clear communication of purpose, helping team members see how their work contributes to a bigger picture, and building cross-functional relationships. Strengthening others requires capacity building—not throwing them into the deep end, but providing structure, sharing knowledge, and encouraging critical thinking. When people feel supported and confident, they take initiative, act responsibly, and strive to improve performance. Great leaders shift from controlling to coaching, enabling their team to take ownership, make decisions, and feel valued for their contributions.


Practice 5: Encourage the Heart
  • Recognise Contributions
    • Recognition is about acknowledging good results and reinforcing positive performance. It's about shaping an environment in which everyone's contributions are noticed and appreciated.
    • It did not cross my mind that "soft" skills of the leader, what the leaders do to the work environment has an impact on the individual's work output -  The leader's job is to get results in a way that makes your organisation a great place to work - a place where people enjoy coming to work instead of just taking orders and hitting the KPIs. Well being seems to be one word embedded somewhere in action. 
    • There's also the reminder that one should not take anyone for granted, and appreciate folks for who they are and what they do. 
    • People need encouragement to function at their best and persistence over time when the hours are long, the work is hard, and the task is daunting.
  • Celebrate the Values and Victories
    • The opening says, "Ceremonies, celebrations, and rituals are not about the event. They're about touching the hearts and souls of every employee." This is no easy task - for its sincerity to be seen and sensed - which is much easier to say than to do.
    • A contributor to a strong and resilient workforce to get extraordinary work done is a culture that strengthens pride and makes people feel valued for their contributions. 
    • Promoting a culture of celebration fuels the sense of unity and mission essential for retaining and motivating today's workforce.
succinctly
Practice 5: Encourage the Heart highlights the importance of recognising contributions and celebrating achievements to build a positive, motivated work environment. Recognition goes beyond hitting targets—it's about acknowledging effort, reinforcing positive behaviour, and showing genuine appreciation for individuals. Leaders play a key role in shaping a workplace where people feel valued and enjoy coming to work, not just fulfilling tasks. Encouragement sustains morale, especially during challenging times. Celebrations and rituals, when sincere, deepen emotional connection and foster a culture of pride, unity, and shared purpose. This culture strengthens resilience and helps people stay committed to doing extraordinary work.

[Reading] Why not? A story about discovering our bright possibilities by Kobi Yamada

 A book of a few words, but bring us back to the ground, simple words but meaningful reminders as we 'chew' the words and make a connection to who we are and how we see things.

Another thing: Love the illustrations... soothing and to details.


Very fundamental, but we often do not know, or do not realise... especially when we were pigeonholed into a made-believed of who we are, especially in trying situations. 

This could a good reminder to ourselves, regardless of age, and who we are, and in whatever situation we are put into. Positive self-belief motivates and brings the best of us. Are we ready? Yes, and No.

  • Yes - when we are willing to make an effort to leave behind the negatives and look forward. 
  • No - if we practise negative self-fulfilling prophecy beliefs and accept what comes without mindful thinking.


Yes, definitely...


We are what we believe and what we practise... (it enforces and is a vicious cycle!)


Love this message at the back cover of the book... encouraging... life is an endless exploration. When we think we are there, there's always somewhere beyond for us to venture into.



Putting together....





[Reading] Falling in Love with a Traveling Cat by Juno

I am not a cat lover. I do not read manga (though I like Doraemon).
But this caught my eyes when I was at the manga section at Kinokuniya. 

It's the cute lovely cat drawing... It's about travel... and it's about Japan! 
Thought it's a wrapped up book, which means I could not flip through to see what's up. 
But the first glance, I'm attracted to the art work in a theme that I could associate with. 
Not cheap... it's close to $30, but over these years, I start to learn appreciating artwork and I think, the work worth the value, and definitely, it can be a very nice gift for friends who are cat lover! 

No disappointment - indeed, the production is printed on good papers - love the touch and feel.
 Finished reading the book in less than 30 minutes... hm... 


Why... the connection...

It starts with entails trip planning - from research to what goes into the luggage, including snacks! Followed by the airplane experience! It's so me - not just what I usually do, but the documentation, too! 


What's are the exciting and thrilling stuff that one should not miss... photos and rides!


Then it brings me through the different places in Japan... highlighting what's representative of each prefecture... but also the delicacies uniquely there! 



Oh! What else do we associate Japan with? Of course, the treat for body and mind that takes advantage of the volcano and springs! 



Last but not least... it's not limited to just the trip....we can associate with this scene anytime, anywhere :)


In summary:




Sunday, March 17, 2024

Reading: (Twin pack) (1) The Dot (2) Ish

Another set of "twin" books - both stories are linked though similar yet different. 


From "the dot" - it reminds us the feedback we give matters... but it definitely does though may not always. On the other hand, it depends who gives the feedback. For the young ones, the significant ones those whom they spend most time with, not just parents, but also their teachers. The acknowledgement, the criticism from any of these significant ones matters a lot to them. It frames their mental models of things, even their own self-worth.

Through this heartwarming story, the teacher's creative response sent an encouraging push towards developing greater confidence because her acknowledgement changes his negative self-perception. 

The positive push encourages him to hone his skills and perspective, and creativity! More importantly, he learnt (through his teacher) and applied (his experience) to others who needed that magically tweak to their perspective. 

In "Ish", it illustrates how, a small discouraging remark or criticism could be detrimental, and even destroy. However, it also reminds one not to be too tunnel vision and think it's the end! Look around... while most people may not appreciate or agree...  look out for the one (among many) who may share the same view and appreciate what one does. Well, if you think what's seemingly of no value is appreciated by someone, would you want to give up? 

... food for thought.... 



Thursday, August 10, 2023

READING: I Wish You More... Amy Krouse Rosenthal & Tom Lichtenheld

Like this book with only 13 pairs of beautifully drawn pictures that convey words that weigh tonnes into a simple warm touch to the heart. Sincere wishes for people we love... and wishing them the best... 

Have picked this book for my team this year. From the bottom of my heart, I truly wish... they have learnt that they have grown... over the times, through the ups and downs, the new tasks and challenges, and each accumulate to make their journey an even more a fruitful and enriching one. I hope these experiences would lift them up... more ups than downs... and each piece of experience is a treasure that they would value and could bring with them. I wish this book will bring more smiles to their faces. Smiles of confidence and fulfilment gained through their journey. 










 

Sunday, July 09, 2023

READING: Reflection - Beyond the Horizon... with the Cat & the Tortoise (Christoper Stokes)

It's about an adventure... that describes what many of us would have been through, in our life journey. I would probably unable to connect to it as much as I do today, if I had read this book many years back, with little written on my life journey yet, then. Some things resonates with me... as part of my personal experience. That also explains why this series of books appeals to me. 

2 characters - one that's curious and would like to see what's out there, but seeking company to go with. One that seems pretty happy with the status quo... "would like to stay at home" nevertheless, won't mind to go along with a bit of encouragement or something to 'lure' it out of the shell. That sounds familiar... haha... that's me????? (haha...)

Nevertheless, I took the courage to moved out of my shell - at least a brave move in my early 30s, when I felt I could possibly take a step to walk into an unknown world - it was indeed a test! I fully agree with the cat "... the most wonderful things happen during adventures... if only we were brave enough to take the first step" If not because of my Bhutan adventure, looking back... my life could be more monotonous, not just the narrative, but also my perspectives. 

I like what the cat has rightly described "Bravery comes in all sizes" when the tortoise thinks his small steps limits the magnitude. This sounds common, right? Sometimes, we are limited by what we thought we are or we could do, and as a result, we decided that we are not good enough to take the first step. "(Bravery) isn't the size of your stride that matters... but the size of your heart."

What lies beyond the Horizon? It's too foggy to see where we're going - This sounds familiar? Definitely, when we reach a point not knowing how to progress, especially after reaching a milestone and remain at a plateau for a while. Uncertainty. Doubt. Worry.... Now, who's the cat? Who's the tortoise? 

I saw myself being the tortoise, and I'm grateful to meet cats along my journey, that have been me the courage and confidence to move through my journey that enables me to play the cat role sometimes. 

The greatest encouragement that comes from the cat when we meet the fog... "That happens sometimes but if we wait long enough for it to lift, a bright new world will be revealed."

What's important, too: focus on the journey rather than the length of the road

Another important learning point is, one has to acknowledge that to move towards attaining goals, being an independent individual is not enough, but recognise that individuals are inter-dependent - to leverage the strengths of a community to work towards a common goal. Do not be afraid to ask for help. It is not a sign of weakness. It's when we acknowledge how we could leverage others to move forward.

  • "That tree is far too tall for me... can I climb on your back?"
  • "sometimes apples are out of reach, until we ask for help."
  • "I don't like asking for help... I'm usually not brave enough"
  • "But sometimes, asking for help is the bravest thing you can do"

The courage and brevity of the leader - the ability to see possibilities when one is confronted with uncertainties

  • "... you sounded very uncertain." 
  • "I am... but with an uncertain future... comes infinite possibilities"
"The bravest thing a tired mind can do... is walk up." - resilience, perseverance.

"The ability to talk does not make you wise... it's the ability to listen... " - need to read deeper into this.  While the ability to talk does not make one wise, but being able to articulate the helps one to clarify what's in the mind and try to make sense and linkages to what we know or heard. 

One lesson from the beaver: what happens tomorrow is determined by what we do today - that says we should not procrastinate. It's not just about procrastinating, but it's about getting the piece of work done properly. There were occasions when we thought a mediocre piece of work is fine, without paying attention to the details and its impact due to this medium effort. Sometimes it may not haunt us till one or two years later when we are confronted with the situation that could be avoid if we could have done more. A life lesson learnt - not just personal, but also saw how others suffer in their own Do not shortcut! Karma is real! 

"Give someone your time, is often the greatest gift you can give" - fully agree with this. Being attentive and listen when the heart. The one who speaks would be able to feel and sense it. It is the most sincere way to connect with someone. 

Sometimes, the progress may seem very slow, almost negligible and unnoticeable. But, be grateful and appreciate it is not a stand still. There is hope! - from the analogy - filling (the bucket) one drop at a time. 

"Even the mightiest trees can be broken down by the wind... but being broken doesn't mean it's the end." It's an important reminder to us 花无百日红, which we need to accept the fact that one may not remain at its prime all the time, but need to have the courage to admit and live through the downtimes, too. There's always some silver lining for a come back 柳暗花明又一村. 

Along the journey, when we encounter difficult situations, we tend to cling on to the safety net when it gives us a sense of security and comfort (in the story, when the tortoise caught hold of the branch that brought it through the danger to safety - "I feel much safer if I stayed here"). Nevertheless, we'll need to be mindful that sometimes this could be a barrier to us - "we should always let go things that are holding us back"

"... the only way to reach the horizon is by carrying on, even when we feel like giving up" - be focused, be determined, persevere

Something heartwarming...

  • "I'm glad I came with you." said the tortoise
  • "And I'm glad you came with me." replied the cat.

"... flying looks easier than climbing." said the cat. "only because you've never flown" replied the butterfly - this sounds familiar? It's similar to saying the grass is greener at the other side. Right?


 

READING: Reflection - Searching for Purpose...with Father Christmas & the Snowman (Christoper Stokes)

This is the 3rd book by the same author. 

The story brings us through the journey on how to see our purpose of life, in particular, through helping others. It's a simple story.

It focuses on the "how" - to learn our own's worth through looking inward and learn what we can do, from which, hence the value proposition that we could offer to others. Despite sometimes, we may lost an arm or leg, in exchange the impact this offer could make such a difference that could be intangible (e.g. happiness), which we might not have imagined. 

Like other stories (from the same author), the story begins with a character that's pretty lost - in this case, the snowman, who is also filled with wonder and fear, wondering the purpose of (its) life, and the fear of melting... focusing on something that one could not do anything... 

There are some comforting dialogue moments that make me ponder a while:
  • When the snowman commented "But ice and snow are cold... why do I feel so warm?" and Father Christmas' replied "Because you are special... because you were also made with love"
  • "Because it is easy to be kind... kind people are the best kind of people." said Christmas Father
  • "One candle alone may not be bright enough... but many small things together can make a big difference" explained Christmas Father on why the candle lights held by the carol singers could guide us through the storm.
  • "A dying candle is no cause for concern... so long as you have a spark do reignite the flame" 
  • "A candle loses nothing by lighting another candle"
  • "One of the greatest joys in life is being able to lift others up, and share our happiness," replied the fairy when she offers to lift the snowman to the top of the Christmas tree.
  • "It is in the greyest skies that we can truly appreciate the beauty of the snowflake"
  • "I get just as much happiness from giving, as I do from receiving" said the Christmas Fairy
  • "Christmas should be about the time we spend... and not how much we spend" a wise comment from Father Christmas
  • It was quite heart warming when the snowman offers the reindeer his carrot nose and commented, "I don't have much to give... but Christmas has taught me that you don't have to be rich to be generous"

Some important sayings (lifted from the story) - wise words from "Father Christmas":
  1. Helping those in need is the most precious gift of all
  2. Sometimes even those who we love must leave us... because the love they once gave you, will never leave you
  3. Stop worrying about what is to come, and focus on what we have now
  4. Focus on what makes you happy, rather than what you fear
  5. Life is shorter than we'd like but it's what we do with the time we have, and not the amount of it that truly maters (i.e. when the snowman expressed the fear of melting.) 
  6. Being brave enough to try something new is the only way of knowing (i.e. when the snowman was encouraged to try the candy which it had never tasted before, and it discovered it like candy very much - no regrets for trying!) 
  7. We can't prevent change... but can learn to adapt to it
  8. A strong heart and a determined mind can make anything happen
  9. If we encourage ourselves not to give up, the toughest times have a way of leading us to the best moments
  10. It's usually once we've lost something, that we appreciate how important it was
  11. Spend your time doing something rather than wishing you were doing something
  12. One of the greatest joys in life, is found in the discovery of who we are
  13. Sometimes, even the wrong track can lead us to the right place (i.e. when the snowman wondered what if they board the wrong track)
  14. Good things often take time (when both board a slow train where they could admire what they see along the way)
  15. Being kind should be everyone's purpose
  16. Being hopeful is often the best way of finding clarity

"I think I am here to be kind... and I am here to be hopeful... and I am here to be happy."
"Your purpose is a gift"


Having read all three books by the same author, it's interesting to see how 2 characters could have just narrated some simple yet deep values of life - with one who's wise and one who wonders...

Saturday, May 20, 2023

READING: A little reflection.... More than a Little

A beautiful book - bought... thought it would be a nice appreciation gift. 

On reading... Realised it's a nice healing book for myself... yes, the words... seemed to be speaking to me.

I work hard, very hard. I'm hardworking... at my job.

I think hard, think very hard. I've been very thoughtful - for others, for my organisation. Probably something that I have done very little for myself. The words here are affirming. Love it! 

It says, "You're gooder than good, and you're kinder than kind." I believe I've lived up to these words most of the time, although it may not, from others' perspectives. 

On another note, I cannot claim that I'm as "bighearted" as I wish I could.

I mind things that are against the natural law that I define. I try to be see things from the bigger picture, and attempt to see from others' perspective. Unfortunately, when it seemingly does not make sense to me. It basically does not make sense to me. I can be unforgiving, in my own ways. 

Nevertheless, I would strive to be make a difference everywhere I go. Though, this difference may not be appreciative by those who have been impacted because my doing it could be one of the darkest days of these people. It requires maturity to really and truly appreciate, I believe. Hence, my ROI may take years to come back, or may never come... well, all in all, still, I've made that difference, the desired difference - at least, that's good enough.

I more than a little appreciate "me" (you).



Thursday, May 18, 2023

READING: Reflection - Touching the Stars with the monkey and the butterfly

Like small easy reads like this... not just because it's "books of few words", but there are lots of inferences we can make along the simple (yet not so simple) story line. 

It started with a pair of acquaintances, with one being more passive, and the other being curious. It explicitly articulates some key ideas and reminders along the way (in their journey).

The 1st one was the monkey's reply to the butterfly that "Just because something's always there, it doesn't mean we should take it for granted." It's a very important reminder. Sometimes, it's not only that we take for granted its presence and assumed it would always be there, and worse, sometimes, we even complain about it and abuse it in our own ways, and did not even appreciate its existence or presence. We won't know and feel its impact and importance until it is gone, until we discover the inconveniences or wonder why things no longer as smooth sailing as it is. 

The monkey has a wish, i.e. to touch the moon... but it seemed had not done much to try making it come true, reason being "too afraid of falling". Yes, no doing anything is also doing something - i.e. decided to resign to fate? Probably also because, it is all alone, by itself. So, what else can it do - with this limited 'capacity'?

How about the butterfly? Its role is the encourager that attempts to ignite the kind of enthusiasm that's currently absence in the monkey. It is optimistic and believes in possibilities. The "fear not" and "why not" attitude matters a lot! It comes the driving force - to continue to pursue in the dark times, in challenging times. It does not take things granted, but it magnifies them to see the positivity in them - .e.g. (... things that make one smile...) It' snows small if it makes you smile. Once again, it shows how it appreciates things arounds, no matter how small it is. Think about it, it sounds like an old sage! 

"Everything comes to an end" - which sounds very sad. 
From another perspective, "but whenever something ends, something new begins". 
Some equivalents & deliberation... While 天下无不散的宴席,柳暗花明又一春;塞翁失马,焉知非福也?
I think what's more important is... any "ending" should not be treated too lightly, and we have to recognise that it's not about ending a relationship, too... instead, relationship should be one of the outcomes of the ending of an episode or stage. This is really very important, especially in this very real and connected world! The world is really very small, when people are so well-connected today. One may meet or work with each other in other future episodes. We have to recognise... each engagement is about building one's relationship, and trust and confidence are two elements that come with this relationship. 

This point was illustrated twice in the story - the monkey & butterfly's encounters with the snake, as well as the bird (towards the end of the story). Good reciprocates good. Sometimes, one never know how the other party has sacrificed to render the necessary support, just to help one to succeed selflessly - not for a reward, because "being able to help others, is a reward," replied the snake.

Because of this willingness to help, to selflessly give... one has actually stretched its capacity.... "as it takes someone very strong to help others with their problems, while they are dealing with problems of their own."

One other point - which is very real world, is being illustrated through the perception that the monkey and butterfly had with the snake. Nevertheless, I like how they approach it. They describe how they feel when the realised the "vine" is the snake, and were fearful that the snake would be angry. However, the snake responded "we often assume the worst... but appearances can be deceiving."

The climax comes towards the end when the bird lifted them up to the volcano, to borrow its power to send the monkey and the butterfly to the furthest point (nearest to the moon and star). 

The fear of being placed at the edge - "It's okay to be scared," replied the bird, "bu no matter how bad the storm gets, it will always pass.". Isn't that encouraging? It's just like we were at the moment just before the exam, just before giving an important presentation, or meeting someone important who would determines our progression? This sounds so familiar! Looking back, we would be able to count... some of those moments that left such heavy impressions in us, and there are also countless that we had to brave through.... "Our emotions come and go, just like clouds in a stormy sky." replied the bird. To manage this, like what the butterfly said, "a calm mind is the best weapon to use against a challenge".

How to manage the fall? What happens when one fails? What's the attitude to face it? 
The moment when the bird flew to pick up the pair, it said, "even though we can't control the outcome, we can always control our actions."

In reality, "Life doesn't always go as planned" (from the monkey) and "sometimes, the unplanned moments are better than the planned ones" (from the butterfly). "Following your dreams is never silly" (from the snake)

Hence, while we may plan, we still need to plan because without a plan is planning to fail. But, we need to exercise flexibility and be adaptable, and accept change is constant, ride along it and brave through the storm and enjoy the fruits. When we look back at peacetime, we would be so proud of ourselves as we have grown each time as we move on the journey.